We are pulled this way and that way. At some point we must find the inner strength to say, "I understand, and I need you to understand too." We then begin to find our balance
The best writers engage with a world beyond themselves, with people different from themselves, and try to see through their eyes. Who are you? Who am I in relation to you?
Writers read. They study. They do research to try and get facts right. When they deviate from the facts, there is a purpose, and they understand their own reasoning.